I realize this will be completely unscientific and anecdotal since my readership is small, but that's OK. My 7.5 yo daughter "Bagel" has been invited to a birthday sleepover by a classmate she's known since preschool. Bagel is excited about it, but truthfully, I'm not fond of this girl - she's allowed to be too mouthy to her parents, and Bagel has come home talking about "Fashion" stuff they've talked about that IMHO is too old for them.
What do you think?
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Depends on the maturity of the kids. I went to sleep overs by that age. If you do prepared to be awake all night and have good structure.
my kids were really excited at that age to go on sleepovers, then around midnight i would get a frantic call from the parent asking if i could come and get my kid...trust your inner voice and take the 'girls' out for hamburgers instead...bagel...what a name!!! has plenty of time for pajama parties...and you too...stay safe...thanks for asking
Well, a few things to consider. Has she ever slept out before? And how did she do, if so? It's old enough if she is ready (be prepared to get a call), but that's not the only thing to consider. Do you trust the parents?; be prepared that she may be up all night and a handful the next day; if you don't like the girl, you have the right to not let her go, but kids will have to learn to deal with all types. Are alot of her friends going that you do like?
My big concerns with my own boys were always this: were they ready, will they be in a safe situation, and was I willing to come get them at midnight if need be.
There are two different issues that need to be addressed- the actual sleepover, and the fact that you you aren't fond of this girl. Second grade isn't too young for sleepovers if you and your daughter feel ready. If you don't approve of the girl, then that is a different issue.
Just weigh up between 'bad influence' and 'night off'!
I would say she isn't necessarily too young. However, I would agree with kollelmama that if you don't think the girl's parents are going to be good influences, she shouldn't go. Also how many kids are going. If it is the b-day girl and 2 friends, and you know they won't be watching inappropriate TV or movies, I would let her go. If you have any worries about what they will be watching/doing I would definately say no.
SO, what did you decide to do?
It's late, but I vote NO unless you have a very close relationship with the parents. You can bring her home late in the evening, and you might not be the only one.
Well, she kind of decided it for me - in a meeting with the principal yesterday (about a much bigger issue involving a child bullying my daughter unfortunately), I was told that my daughter admitted to the principal that she lied to me because she was afraid of getting in trouble. So now she's in even more trouble, including (but not limited to) not being allowed to go to the party.
(whew.)
Thank you for your comments and input, everyone!
Wow sorry to hear that.
We do sleepovers at 7.5..but I know the parents and like them as well.
Sorry you're having problems with 'bagel'. HUGS to you my friend.
Lisa
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